You are who you are... May the force be with you!

 Like a dandelion in a field of roses... 

Is quite possibly the best analogy I can think of to summarize a lifelong struggle to fit in.  

Trying to fit in , to belong , to be part of the larger world around you can be an extremely onerous and cumbersome burden to carry for anyone- more so for an individualistically independent and quintessentially reclusive person . Oft misunderstood for their silence and mostly taken for granted  for their tendency to appease, it takes a long and lengthy struggle for one to finally be comfortable in one's own skin. To recognize oneself for who one is and hesitantly and reluctantly at first, trying to be assertive takes courage. 

To yearn to belong is an inherently primitive emotion and the lengths we go to achieve the same differs from person to person.  It can take many hues- from an angst driven shy teenager who wants to fit in with the trendy set; an adult who constantly gives in and obliterates his/her own individuality trying to fit into a relationship, in a new environment; to a nation furiously trying to tow the line of bigger, more powerful nations- All of it... Just to fit in.

But once in your life, when the Oracle finally whispers in your ears and you open your eyes, your heart and your mind, to the possibility of being free, of finally not giving a damn about the world around you...  Alis Volat Propriis- it simply means 'She Flies with her own wings'. And so you rise, rise above the meanness, the frivolity, the bondages of manipulations and coercions all around you. trying to hem you in, trying to forge you into who you are not!

Trying to steer the ship of your life away from the whirlpools  churning to suck you in, drowning you in a tempestuous swirl of emotions and guilt, will never be an easy journey. 

With persistence and tenacious grit, you will eventually find the strength in you to finally put down your foot and assert yourself- stand up for who you are or what you believe in and to do so unapologetically.  

And when you do that, you can finally be the person you were always meant to be ! 🙂